“A Severe Breakdown in Communication”

Content Note: Discussion of sexual assault, rape apologetics. Dear Abby, You recently responded to a young woman who described being sexually assaulted. Your response? “It appears you and that boy had a severe breakdown in communication, which led to your being sexually assaulted.” Now, I’ve never been an advice columnist, but I am a writer…

What does a rapist look like?

If we think of rapists as monsters, as something you are instead of something you did, we’re actually supporting rape culture. Because anyone can shrug and say, “Of course I’m not a rapist, rapists are monsters,” and then happily ignore the ramifications of their actions when they hurt someone.